This isn’t a post as much as it is a rant. It is not even what I usually write about but I need an outlet for the frustration I am feeling. It comes out of a month of being on a few dating apps, Match.com, eHarmony and Plenty of Fish. I have come to some conclusions about the women who are on there. I am probably wrong in respects but I don’t really think I am too far off base.

The women on the sites say they want integrity, honesty, and a man to be truthful. He also wants a man who is thoughtful, well educated, intelligent, funny, sense of humor, charming, loves cats, snuggles with puppies, adventurous, loves to be outdoors, loves to be indoors, is an excellent cook, can climb a mountain after running a marathon, regrets not joining Greenpeace, or essentially is perfect. A man who doesn’t exist.

The men on these sites are married men looking for some side action, or just looking for a hookup. There are some dirtbags on these sites that give me a bad name. The other men are divorced. They are divorced for a reason. They weren’t perfect.

Some also write they don’t want to see pictures of shirtless men. So, guess what? I was honest. I said I had a dad bod. That I don’t exercise as much as I would like but I am going to do something to get into shape. (Sidebar: I think I am going to write some articles chronicling my trek. I have a small following so no one will read it, right?) My profile is nothing but honesty, right down to a five-year plan to own a farm in NH. Nothing.

I’m not sure women really know what they want, or if what they want is really out of reach. I wonder if they want to be lied to. The perfect man is only perfect until he gets what he wants. They need to understand that they got divorced as well, and it is not because they “fell out of love”. Were their expectations for their husbands way to high to be achieved? That I can understand because I have been in that type of marriage.

So, as you may have figured out, my experience with online dating has been unfruitful and a waste of time. The women that I have talked to were trying to scam money from me, i.e., catfishing. They chat, make it seem like they want a relationship, send sexy pictures (without being asked), then have some reason why they need money. One scam is that their father died, left an inheritance but in order to get it they have to be married. So they have a fake lawyer set up to send an email asking for all your info. I think they believe some dirty pictures with dirty talk with an empty promise of money will make a man dumb enough to send their personal info.

The last thing I will mention is that these dating apps are a scam. Match makes you pay for at least three months. EHarmony, it’s six months. Plenty of Fish is at least monthly but they offer free messaging. If Mach and eHarmony are so successful like their ads claim, then why don’t they offer a monthly option? Or even let you cancel once you might find a match?